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Jeanne Malmgren's avatar

Wow, thank you for introducing us to Alan Weisman. I love his two tips. Those are evergreen. I was taught in both my careers to ask questions until I fully understand, and never worry about appearing "dumb." In fact, "dumb" in these contexts is an asset. My editor(s) in journalism made me go back and ask the subject of my story MORE questions if necessary. I didn't like it, but I knew they were right. And then when I became a therapist, my supervisor/mentor gave me a great piece of advice about how to work with counseling clients. She said, "Be Columbo." Peter Falk would always act like he was dumb and keep asking questions until he got the criminal to confess. If I keep asking questions (some of which might seem obvious), my client's story slowly emerges.

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Melissa Tuckey's avatar

I love asking questions. I think there's an art to asking a good question-- one that will open the subject up, or bring complexity to a conversation. I know everyone is playing the I'm smarter than you game, but I guess I'm over that. Smart people ask questions & politically It can be an effective way to encourage dialogue and critical thinking.

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